Why Did I get Married?

Okay, so you've read the title, and before those of you who know me rush and shout, "but you're not married," please read on. I know the movie put out by Tyler Perry is old but this topic has come up over and over again in countless conversations I've have with friends who are married as well as with single friends such as myself. And let me also say this: if my mama asks me one more time when I'm getting married, I am going to scream. I am writing this blog for the purpose of getting honest thoughts and clarity on the issue of marriage and why you the reader got married. Please don't comment with what you think I want to hear or what sounds nice. Be honest!

This past weekend was our church homecoming anniversary and we were blessed to have a guest speaker from Ludlow MS. I think thats how you spell Ludlow, lol. Anyhow he is in his late 70's or 80's I believe but he is very much sharp, quick and in hid right mind. His wife of 57 years passed away and he got remarried though initially he vowed he never would. Be patient with me if you will as I hope this is all relevant to you in my blog. He met a woman at his church whom he is married to now. She was 59 years old and had never been married nor had any children yet she claims she has had a beautiful and fulfilling life.

He stated that he wanted to give up, to die after his wife passed. He further states that God asked him the question, "do you want to live," to which his response was, "yes". God said to him well then you've got to remarry and move on with your life. WOW! If this doesn't blow anyones else's socks off them maybe I'm just a little weird. I know many peopel who love their spouses dearly and couldn't think of marrying another in the event of their death and there are also those who would mourn for a while and move on, but to actually have God mandate it so to speak, wow!

I ask you again. Why did you get married? What does it do for you or what is it to you? What if God told you not to get married but you so desparately wanted to be? Is marriage for everyone. Are we all supposed to be married. Paul says that he would rather us remain as he was (single) but if we couldn't keep ourselves then it's better to marry than to burn.

I've been close to marriage, twice. Prayed, fasted, thought I heard from God but it didn't work and I am proud to say I'm glad I didn't go through with it because I would have had to endure some rough trials now that I look back on it. Do I want to be single? My initial response is no, but then again, is that the worst thing that could happen in my life? Certainly not!

I think it's so funny when people say God sent me my husband or my wife when really we spotted them and begged God til he allowed our desires to become reality and He's keeping you every step of the way. So to close this thing I sign off stating that no, I'm not married, barely have any prospects but I am open to what God has for me!

Love to you all!

The devil thought he had me

The devil thought he had me, but I sho nuf got away...... Well let's see its been since April that I actually wrote a blog. I've been MIA but it was much needed. I was so excited and focused about changes that had to be made that the devil tried to deter me. You see he knew that I was focused and he wanted to see if bringing confusion and calamity in my life would make me get off the road less traveled. Well he was wrong. I cried a few tears but when I get done I came out swinging. I traded my sorrows and my shame. I laid it down for the joy of the Lord. Of course I didn't come out swinging physically but I came out with the sword of the Spirit which is the word of God. I am back on track and look forward to sharing with you the experiences God takes and guides me through. The end result........... CHANGE.